What to say when you can't respond yet
I get texts from friends. I get Facebook messages. I get direct messages on Twitter. I get emails.
And sometimes I simply do not know how to respond.
These are not mean messages. They are often kind. "When's a good time to get together?" "I hope you are doing well!" "Congratulations. I bet you are over the moon."
However, as a words person, I need way more than 140 characters to respond. I need way more time than the two minutes I have while walking down the hallways. I need way more thinking space to figure out how to explain how I'm feeling.
And so, I often say nothing. And I leave my friends hanging.
The other day, I imagined using a response something like this:
I’ve not followed up on your text/notification/comment.
I am ignoring it, though I am not ignoring you. Not exactly.
At the moment, we are appreciating the introduction of a new family member, I am planning commitments for teaching and for a specific consulting project, and I am uncertain about the schedules for these. It means that I am uncertain about scheduling any new things.
I am scheduling for late February and early March. Thanks for your patience.
I haven't used it yet. Not exactly. Though it's possible that I will simply send some friends to this note.
I invite you to use it, too.