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Scott Howard's avatar

Nearly 20 years ago I ended up in the hospital for a week with pancreatitis and got my gallbladder removed. Had very few visitors that I remember but a friend of mine came by while I was sleeping and saw me and spoke with my wife. Hearing about this changed my perspective about visiting others in the hospital.

Too often people avoid visiting, or the opposite, they visit and overstay their welcome. I've made it a point to simply show up, access the situation, let the person(s) know I care about them and will pray for them and the medical team's wisdom and then leave. That alone can have an impact.

Like the story of the two friends you shared, I visited an old friend I had not seen in decades. He was at Lutheran and had his leg amputated to save his life due to diabetes complications, etc. It was good to see him and his wife. With social media, we can stay in touch, but taking the time for an in-person visit is beneficial for both the patient and the visitor.

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Lauren's avatar

Any thoughts about what to do if the person you visit is sleeping when you arrive? That has happened on several occasions with friends near death. My mom worked in a senior health community for many years and encouraged me to wake them - that they would be glad to know I am there (as that is what she experienced working with residents in nursing care units.) But that feels disruptive to me. What thoughts do you have on that from your perspective as a chaplain and as a person?

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